Monday, February 13, 2023

Twitter thread shares deep insight on abuse

This came across my screen today. I think it's worth reading her rationale and conclusions, but it is very similar to things I've been saying. Authoritarianism is elevating the hierarchy above people, and while it's especially the eldership that I find problematic, this is also happening with respect to husband/wife and father/children.

Her second point is the cornerstone of Biblical Counseling, where the victim and abuser are flipped. The abuser is, in a sense, one and done. They did harm, they repented of the harm and now everything is grand. Now the victim is the one living in a state of sin, bitterly mulling over wrongs and participating in (gasp) survivor blogs wallowing in self-pity. BC denies the physical effects of trauma on the brain and subsequent patterns of behavior, instead painting it as the sin of the victim.

The third part is the counterpoint to the second, and how IRPC has flipped the table on victim families. The sin of the Christian perpetrator can only be seen through the lens of mistakes. There's no pattern, no premeditation, only a brief error of judgment that can and should be repented of and now the church can move on - remember hierarchy (restoring the pastor back to power) is the primary goal here.

As a result, the church virtually denies abuse (a deliberate pattern of behavior to manipulate and control others) within her walls - as such would be antithetical to a brief error of judgment.

Laura has much more insight in her two threads, but I felt it was very applicable to the lines of reasoning here.

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