"I know many, many, many people who have been through Biblical counseling methodologies. I have yet to find one who has walked away less damaged than they went in... and that's really painful to say." - Rachael Denhollander, Valued Conference 2019
What does Biblical Counseling have to say?(emphasis mine)
What does Biblical Counseling have to say?(emphasis mine)
On domestic violence:
"Similarly, you should expect to find two sinners embroiled with each other, not an irredeemable monster oppressing an innocent victim who needs no redemption." - Paul Tripp and David Powlison (of CCEF)
On counseling the sexually abused:
"Reframe her story. She is no longer a victim. In Christ she is a victor.This sounds similar to how matters were dealt with at Sovereign Grace Churches - (CEO CJ Mahaney was on the board at CCEF):
No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. Romans 8:37
An essential part of defaming her story has three parts and is based on Ephesians 4:22-24:
Very often I show my counselees how to do this through a specific type of journaling.
- Discarding old patterns of ungodly thinking
- Thought reconstruction
- Adopting new patterns of godly thinking
Reminding your counselee of her identity in Christ, reviewing the gospel, and helping her reframing her story is part of your counselees’ healing, accomplished through Jesus Christ who is her healer." - Lucy Moll, When Counseling the Sexually Violated
Deeply embedded in the SGM mindset are some assumptions:
In your SGM pastor’s mind, you’ve got NO RIGHT to see yourself as a victim, of any sort. In order to “bring the Gospel in,” they’re duty-bound to remind you of your own sinfulness, like it’s some sort of tonic for the normal grief that you might feel because of the ramifications of the sin that was perpetrated against you…like somehow, if I as the victim can just focus on my own badness, I’ll forget that someone molested my child.
- All sins are just as vile in the eyes of God.
- One of the clearest signs of “rebellion” is when a person sees himself as an injured party, because no injury that can be perpetrated against the person could ever surpass the horror that the person’s own sin is in the eyes of God.
- The clearest sign of a “repentant” person is eager confession of wrongdoing.
So OK. In SGMville, all sins are created equal.
Now, enter the perp. Perp expresses sorrow and remorse for his sin. He truly IS the “worst sinner that he knows,” so such a mindset comes easily and naturally to him. In the eyes of his SGM pastors, he automatically then becomes the “more righteous” person, since his response is the only “truly biblical” response that they can find acceptable.
It gets worse if the victim stands up for himself/herself in any fashion. SGM pastors immediately see this as unforgiveness, which of course is a sin, which then makes the victim even WORSE than the remorseful (and therefore righteous) perp. - SGMSurvivors.com